One of the most distressing symptoms of my prolonged health relapse is that I am very underweight. I’m 5ft 1″ and under 7 stone. I eat like a starving donkey, take supplements, including whey protein powder, I am having tests on my repeated GP visits. I hate being this thin. It makes me feel unfeminine, weak and insubstantial.
Yet people feel free to tell me, most emphatically, that I am too thin… in a concerned voice. It seems never ending. I find it patronising and hurtful. It is socially acceptable to tell me I am too thin but how would they feel if I said: “Hi! Still fat, then?” or “Crikey, you’ve put weight on. Bit of a porker!”
Constantly telling someone they are too thin seems to imply that you’re starving yourself, (you’re anorexic) or just plain difficult!
I think some people genuinely are concerned but it does make me wonder if some are they’re doing it to make themselves feel better about themselves and THEIR bodies. To be fair, no-one at church has said this; it’s my secular friends! Go figure!
I’m going to have to think of a good riposte next time somebody pipes up!