Friends List Produces Stark Conclusions


Discernment (Photo credit: Thomas Hawk)

I made two lists last night: one of people I used to see 2011/12 and those I have seen and see now in 2013. Happily there was a crossover regarding friends I hold most dear – P, A, R, G, S and others – but there was a startling revelation. Many of the friends on the early list had disappeared. Mostly this was due to me not going out on the music scene. Some of those friends don’t really meet the criteria I have developed as “quality” – i.e., those who are stable or nurturing or just… decent.  That sounds harsh. It isn’t supposed to be. I guess as we grow in discernment who we spend our time with changes.
A lot of the people on List 2 are from the church or are connected to the church in some way, maybe through the Divorce Group.  I like the people on this list even if I don’t always share some of their views. However, I do worry that my life has become TOO church-based.
I am keen to keep a balance between non-Christian friends and Christian ones. I think that’s healthy and also authentic.